Remodeled Love presents
Relational
Archetypes
The Field Guide
BY JESSICA & JOE DAYLOVER
Welcome to your field guide
Whether you're here because you're wondering if a different relationship style could be right for you, your partner brought up exploring something new and you're trying to figure out how you feel, or you've spent years following the relationship rules you were taught and are starting to wonder if they actually fit…we want you to know you're in the right place.
At Remodeled Love, we believe there is no one right way to do love or relationships. Our goal is to teach you how to know yourself, your needs, your curiosities, and your limits. We want to create a safer, compassionate place for you to explore the possibilities of love and relationships in this lifetime. We want you to know you're human, and most importantly, that you're not alone.
We made this Field Guide to help you explore what's possible for you.
This isn't a test you can pass or fail. And polyamory isn't the destination we're trying to get you to.
Monogamy isn't less evolved. Polyamory isn't more enlightened. And questioning the rules doesn't mean you have to throw them all out.
Our mission with this Field Guide is to help you understand what you want, what matters to you, and what kinds of relationships might feel fulfilling in your actual life.
Relational Archetypes
The Field Guide
Table of Contents
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Meet your archetype
Your quiz result is a starting point for reflection, not a permanent label or a definitive answer about who you are.
You might recognize yourself in much of what you read. You might relate to parts of several archetypes. You might even read your result and think, Well, that's not quite right. With that in mind, we encourage you to read through the Field Guide in its entirety; take what resonates and leave the rest.
Think of your archetype as a snapshot of where you are right now: the desires, beliefs, questions, and circumstances that may be shaping how you think about relationships.
People change. Circumstances change. What feels right in one season of life might not feel right in another. You don't have to force yourself into a category just because a quiz gave it a name.
How to use this guide
As you explore your archetype, pay attention to three things:
- What resonates?
- Which parts make you feel seen, understood, or relieved? What language helps you articulate something you've felt but haven't quite known how to express?
- What feels uncomfortable?
- Sometimes discomfort points toward something worth exploring. Sometimes it simply means something doesn't fit. You get to decide which is which, and sometimes that takes time.
- What do you want to explore next?
- You don't need to make a big relationship decision today. Start with curiosity. Ask questions. Have conversations. Give yourself room to discover what feels true for you.
The reflection questions throughout this guide are invitations, not assignments. Respond where you feel called.
One last thing
You are allowed to want monogamy. You are allowed to want polyamory. You are allowed to be curious, uncertain, flexible, or somewhere in between.
You are allowed to take your time figuring it out.
And you are allowed to change your mind.
You don't have to become someone else to build relationships that feel right for you. You just have to get curious about who you are, and who you might become.
Let's explore.
List of Archetypes
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